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i have found this to be true, that is when you can seperate the wheat, from the chafe. the buzzards come in, even before the parent has pasted.. to get what they want. greed has no measure.. tis always this way. why this is, i dont know... guess i dont know how to think.. me mom, she wanted to know what i wanted, from her belongings, i said the mattress she has, maybe the pistol. small change. others want so much more. this doesn't work in a positive way. never does., i think, maybe from the heart, and practical. while sum others think $$ signs.. i can be, and often am wrong, ... during your time of going through this, you will find who rings true. and often, it may surprise you, because you didnt, pay attention sooner. pigs at the bin.. have ya ever heard the term, long pigs.?? that is what cannables call people, and democrats, when someone disagrees.. food for the barby.. ok,
i am poking some fun. might as well have at it, while this site last... if only you can go to google or facebook to talk, this site is done... --- ...
 

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g'day mate... I've not been on this forum long enough to often properly decipher your posts at time...be as it may, they are always interesting.

I've buried both a parent and a close uncle who left it all to me as I was his only nephew and provided financial and physical care for him in his last years..mind you...very little of value.
at my dad's passing, it was his couple of firearms and old lionel trains..those seem to be legacy type items in our family..the odd piece of jewelry...at the end of the day, if I needed to sell it all, it might amount to a month's car payment...it's all sentimental and that's all I cared about anyway. My mom has some nice furniture..but mostly dated and neither I, nor any of the grandkids are interested in most of it..which means it'll be on me to dispose off in the coming years. Same problem for my kids...they could care less about our furniture...and even my vintage guitar amplifier collection is not of interest...couple of them have staked out a guitar from the collection and maybe 1 amp, but the fever I had years back collecting them isn't something they experienced...it's just "one of Dad's guitars" and they'll treasure it for that. The family heirlooms of a couple firearms and lionels..are already getting passed down..and lord knows come the day they have to move my world out after my passing, they'll need to change their shorts when they realize the amount of "inventory" on hand for "tools" that are not family heirlooms.. They love coming over to ride on the hondas, but have no interest in learning how to maintain them...and even though my bikes are 25 - 40 years old I imagine they will outlive me and wind up handing a key to some of my kids. But 90% of the "stuff" I own..naw..it'll wind up in a Goodwill box..and that's fine.. I've enjoyed the toys at various stages of life...whether it's a jon boat on the pond, a rifle for target fun, trains around the christmas tree, or great nights playing on stage in some crap bar that has my old amps so smokey smelling you'd never get it out...there's dumb stuff like a collection of Budweiser beer steins and some Johnny Lightning model car replicas of famous TV/Movie machines... (Think Barris Munster mobile and Monkees, Batmobile, etc)
again, it's a time and age thing.. I hold fond memories of those shows, but to grandkids those are just little toy cars to mess with and drop someplace and forget... I have no illusions that my kids/grandkids will understand the reason all this stuff is sitting around the house and filling up closets...that's ok..it's been a fun ride...along the way, things have gone to ebay for sure..but still... a lot of stuff in my life ... as to the mindset of folks...to me it's just material stuff...I could walk away from 99% of it tomorrow and live a very different lifestyle...you're talking to a guy that has lived out of a suitcase, with a guitar and amp and hotel rooms..the fact that my current status includes alarge home, property and toys for land and sea...ok..fun..but not required.
 

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thanks, thats kinda the way i feel. so much stuff, and none of it valued.. not even the memories. the sister that wants it the most, just wants.. she has made the most money, working at ford, she has also squandered her money, but she still dont understand what stuff means. i got no one to leave anything too, myself, but i hope they would understand, what it meant to me, what little i got.. the stuff she leaves, my mom, some of it is over 5 generations old,.. the clothes cabinet that my mom has got now, was the kind that could be taken apart, to put in a covered wagon.. she got it when her mom died,.. i think it came from grampa's side of the family, on me mom's side.. her dad..
on the other side, of the family, my dads side, wasnt nothing left to anybody much. they never had much. tenant people. they did have 75 acres in some of the best up and down hills. still, trying to remember if there was a flat spot anywhere. guess you might not have that problem, where your from..
with my mom crossing, even if its a fair share, wadda i do with my stuff. i cant take it with me.
actually, it just bothers me, that the buzzards, siblings, an theirs,, are hovering over, fore, me mom, is done.... they will be disappointed, when it gets to me.. i hate ticks
 

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g'day mate... I've not been on this forum long enough to often properly decipher your posts at time...be as it may, they are always interesting.
have ya ever heard the term, "e's got brown eyes, an it runs out is ears" :D
 

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IMO< nothing brings out the claws in people like a death in the family, after the crying and or many times SHOW they put on, , they all think the deceased Person is worth 10x's more than they are and that there entitled to THERE SHARE if NOT ALL of it!
dosn't matter how often they were helping the deceased or involved in there life at all, but as soon as they pass they show up like moths to a light!
and then come the lawyers and countless times those that spend the most money get things and NOT who the deceased wanted to have things!
its a shame that so many think they deserve to benefit from one passing!
and could care less about the passing persons feelings or wishes!
GREED comes into play
old saying, NO one screw's you like Family!
but your friends !!
money and possessions that MIGHT be worth some money, sure make some folks evil!
 

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IMO< nothing brings out the claws in people like a death in the family, after the crying and or many times SHOW they put on, , they all think the deceased Person is worth 10x's more than they are and that there entitled to THERE SHARE if NOT ALL of it!
dosn't matter how often they were helping the deceased or involved in there life at all, but as soon as they pass they show up like moths to a light!
and then come the lawyers and countless times those that spend the most money get things and NOT who the deceased wanted to have things!
its a shame that so many think they deserve to benefit from one passing!
and could care less about the passing persons feelings or wishes!
GREED comes into play
old saying, NO one screw's you like Family!
but your friends !!
money and possessions that MIGHT be worth some money, sure make some folks evil!
what an obscene, but true observation. pigs at the trough. onk onk, gotta get what i want, onk onk.. .
 

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over the yrs I seen so many NASTY deaths, both in how folks died, and HOW there things left behind were fought over , or just how ugly some people can be

I once dated a girl, who's mother walked out when she was 2, at the age of 5 the dead beat dad SOLD her to a neighbor for beer money then he too left(legally signed her over too for beer money)

when she died, he showed up at funeral, looking to collect all her belongings
as he THOUGHT they would be his due to he was the father!
me and some of my friends, gave him the option of leaving the funeral parlor, under his own power or some other way!, he chose option 1 and after some other warnings never seen him again! he headed my warnings , and lucky he did!

but the nerve to show up after 20 yrs or so and thinking ALL items should be his,
is just an example how folk can act after one dies!
very little shocks me any more,
I bought many estates out to settle things over the yrs due to siblings unable to work things out on there own ,after yrs of estates in limbo, due to greed on some or ALL

have a good friend in a family suit now 7+ yrs , since there mom passed away, 2 brothers 2 sisters cannot come to terms so its all on HOLD
the estate has been broken into 4 times over the yrs too, so there loosing things fighting over items and NOW no one is getting them and still won't settle on things<
Crazy, but how it works more times than NOT in my experiences!
 

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crazy, aint it.. i dont understand. you cant be there in life, for a person, but when they die, you want their goods. or your fair share, so to speak. the way i figure it, if ya dont see me, or call, least write ever so often, i could give a big squat, were ya at my funeral. come to think of it, i dont care if any one comes. not like i will be watching, not like i'd want to anyway. if i could, i'd rather be fishing.. drinking a beer an laughing..
 

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here is another story
my one neighbor a lady in her late 80's ,(very wealthy and miserable, family never came around when she was alive) she's been in a nursing home last 2 yrs, this spring her family that lives out of state started showing up every weekend and STEALING things,, knowing she NOW wasn't getting out of nursing home!
they also own land below me (she gave some to the one )
and a old logging road runs thru the woods to there land from this lady's
so I kept seeing them dragging things out of house thru the woods down to there land so NO one would see them doing it
Old lady passed away in late June, and since then, the family(all out of state folks) show up at random and leave with things, whole estate is supposedly in limbo, due to family cannot come to terms on how to split it up!
YET every weekend I see different cars hauling things out of the house, as if there stealing from each other, trying to be sneaky, , yet they all HAVE to see things missing LOL
its 3 house and 3 land partials too, so they cannot steal land, so there taking items, then odds are will be fighting obver WHO took them down the road
Got to love family HAHA!
 

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they should be caught stealing. that is just evil.. family ya cant pick, mostly, ya just put up with them.. least ya can pick your friends.. and they wont be trying to scarf your stuff, when your gone..
 

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unless it's inexpected, I plan to have given away everything of value and sentiment long before I sail into the sunset....so it won't matter...and for now, trying to ensure that my kids/grands can enjoy and understand why I've enjoyed various things in life...old Lionel trains, hondas, guitars, etc...things that stand the test of time.
I've watched for years as my grandkids, who are all about digitgal gaming, will toss that aside and run to the den at christmas time where I have multiuple lionel trains and slot cars set up around the tree..they play for hours with "real toys" and can't even remember where they left their iphones/pads....the big kids(adults) will stay up half the night playing the latest Fortnight or CallofDuty, but they are much more excited to come to the house and be able to take real firearms out back on my range...so, yeah, there's value, if not monetary, in some items that will be passed along to loved ones and friends...by the time the hooded fella comes along to escort me to the great beyond (along of course with the tax man holding his hand out)...there won't be anything here to pack up...and that's a good plan.
 

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I have already started getting rid of countless items of mine, due to I know most of my family would have zero appreciation for it, or have a clue on its value
this is a big part of passing on too, as IF they knew the values they would fight, yet many things will be thrown away due to NOT knowing value!

the hard part is getting rid of things before you pass away is, knowing what to KEEP as you may need it, and another part of it is is, its very hard to let go of things you worked your life getting!
as its not like you will be given a day and a time your kicking the bucket.
 

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yep...I had talked about "collectables" above, but you're right, there are also things that i "need" example...we camp..so that hobby alone...honda inverter genny..that's a quick easy sale on craigslist anyday..but for now, I still camp, I still have the occassional storm, nice to have a generator....so I don't plan to sell it anytime soon, but if I became bad sick/unable to enjoy the current lifestyle, then it goes for sale along with all the other camping supplies.
i have property now to tend to...so lawn tractor, brush mower, brush cutter, weed eaters, chain saw..on and on...but come a day I can no longer keep up with all this...then all that "stuff" needs to go..and with my kids being small lot suburbs or town homes...they have no need for all this.
have a home on the coast as well as inland property has a nice pond, so jon boats, fishing gear, etc
 

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i have given away some of my treasure as well, and plan on doing it. i dont know how much longer i got, but hate to waste it, on the uncaring. some things though sentimental to me, have no bearing, on the family. i might have yet 20 years, though the odds aint so much promising.. i expect another major stroke, tho, i would like to go riding a horse, or an atv, stead of laying on the couch, because of sciatica. i made some pretty could times on a horse, and a few good jumps on an atv. come to think of it, i jumped the railroad tracks, at 6 mile lane, in me moms 65 ford, buried the speedometer more than once, it only when to 120, but i got way past that. the 352, was kickass, and i didnt need to be driving it. it, i think had more power than the 351, that came later.. then,, when i had the 64 chevy truck, had cattle racks on the back, i jumped a place in hikes point, next to a club/bar. it was knee high or so from one parking lot to another. i had been thinking about it for a few years, then i did it.. i almost run into the bank, lanes/machines. you know the ones, with the tube things, that go to the bank.. my distant cousin, Guy was with me.. i told him to hold on, but he didnt hold on above his head.. so his head hit the roof. this was pre-seatbelt.. i owed him one anyway..
if ya cant have fun, an enjoy yourself, getting old sucks.. strange that people want you to act your age.. they dont,,, they want you to act like them, so they feel better..
my mom passed, the vultures are circling. just the way. i havent got much, but, i'd give what little i got, to someone that was truly interested.. v/s an uninterested family member..
 

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come to think of it, if you dont have a plan, the gov, gets its fair share.. i think it is a harassment fee..
for lack of a better term. i.e., The more they harass ya, the more money they want to leave ya alone..
i left out the part, when they owe you money, they avoid it, best they can..
 

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sorry to hear of your mom's passing and
I hope you find comfort in good memories, you have of her!

I also hope the family can get along and be civil with her passing !
 

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the vultures do circle. a sad thing to say, but it is so. i heard this today, from one of my siblings, an she is the friendly one.. she said, its not anybody's business, the way the estate, is settled, cept her, and my other sister.. they were pointed executors of the estate.. to much power, in the mind of simple people.. 5 siblings, and two of the girls are in charge. nothing against girls siblings being in charge, but power corrupts. absolute power even more.
it dont cover just girls though, it includes the guys. truly, i dont want to be in charge. let them take what they want..
my brother said, dont send stuff to goodwill, i will take it to church., while he was gone, one of my sisters loaded up stuff, to take to goodwill.
i dont know what ya'll know about goodwill, but its not the charity place ya think it is..
now comes a question. why would she take stuff to goodwill, when my brother already said he would take it, to the church..
you guys can figure this out, because i cant.. i just cant think this way.
thing is, she is a strong church going person. even i said, give to the church. it will be local.
only thing i know, she has a one track mind, and her train of thought, has run off the track, many years ago..
i already know my train of though has run off the track, just, maybe not as bad. i been running a bit loco-motive, and off the track for soo many years, it dont count.. ;~}
besides, i wear mine like a badge of honor on my sleeve...
 
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