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It was a very somber and emotional day today. My wife, my son, and myself attended a memorial service for the son of some very dear friends today. This young man, Ben, was one of the most robust, outgoing, positive, caring, and gentle young person that I have ever had the pleasure to know. At the age of 19 his life was cut short doing what he loved most, hiking and climbing. In his short time on this earth he influenced a multitude of people from young to old with his zest for life. On Friday the 30th of June he and his sister, Malia, said goodbye to their parents and headed out for what was a normal outing for the two of them. A weekend trip of camping, hiking and climbing. He hugged both of his parents told them he loved them and they drove off like they had done dozens of times. They headed to the mountains of southwest Montana and headed out with their back packs and headed up the trail head after setting up camp went for their hike and climb after getting to a certain point Malia stopped and watched her brother go on higher and farther like she had done many times before, watching him ascend terrain she wasn't comfortable with. Then to her horror watched as he slipped and fell. She was able to call for help and Ben held on until help arrived and was then air lifted to a small hospital in North West Wyoming and later life flighted to a hospital in south central Montana where he passed on July 1st.
As I sat and looked around the church where the service was held and looked at the amount of people that were in attendance, 700 plus, I was in awe at how many lives this young man touched. At the very end of the service his Dad got up in front of everyone, how he held his composure I will never know he asked all of the young people that were Ben's friends to stand up. My son and 200 other kids stood up. Most of these kids were not with parents, they came on their own accord. They respected and loved this young man because he knew what it meant to be a friend. His dad stood there and just took it all in, he groaned multiple times from within as he struggled to keep it together. Thankful for the support of all that were there, he then thanked all of them for coming and told them that just because Ben was gone didn't mean he wanted their relationship with his family to end, that he, his wife, and Malia needed all of them to help them hold it together. He told them he needed them to come by, especially the young men, and to hug him because he would never be able to hold his son again and he was really going to need that over the next few months. Then he gently reminded all of us parents to look at our kids, not to sweat the small stuff and to Hug and to Hold them. It was at this point that I lost it. All of the issues that I've had with my kids seemed to disappear and become very trivial in the spectrum of life. I know that this may not be the platform and this may get me in trouble, but if there are those who would be so inclined to lift the Tessenier family before the Lord in prayer for their loss, I would humbly encourage those to do so. And as his dad reminded us parents, Hug and Hold your Kids, Pick your battles, tell them that you love them, and hold on to them. I've already prepared my two sons and told them that out of the blue they are going to be hugged randomly, even though they are 21 and 18 years old and tower over me by 3" at 6'5". I can't imagine the feeling of their loss.
 

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Such a sad and horrible story, and if your request gets you in trouble then consider my membership on this forum cancelled. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a child. Know that this family is in my prayers.
 

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I can in no way imagine this story or your request would get any sort of negative kick back from this site. Being a family oriented site i would think your safe. And i cant imagine such a strong individual being able to hold it togeather through such a horrible time. My daughter is only a year and a half old and this story was making me tear up and go hug and hold her close for quite a while. I appreciate you sharing this story with us! It reminds us all how short life can be and how unfair sometimes. And your detail made us all feel like we were there.
 
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jkhuntin, thanks I know that they will appreciate knowing that and will share it with them, thanks to you both I grabbed my oldest as soon as he got home from work my youngest was there so I grabbed him after the service.
 

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I worked with a young man for a time who was also very well liked and respected by all. I was a network manager, he was a very dedicated and very fine teacher. He was always seen running around doing something for others, especially when it was a student in need. He eventually moved out to Arizona to accept a better teaching job. Well, shortly after he left we all received tragic news. He had gone climbing with a friend out there somewhere. At some point during the climb he had reached a large bee hive of some sort in the face of the rock. He was overcome by them and fell to his death.

The bad folks live on forever it seems... while the best suffer undeserved consequences. Universe has that oppressive habit...

I have always believed that every tragedy in life is offset somewhat by a birth of new opportunity. Sometimes in our grief we sense that property in nature... we reach out for it. Sometimes we grow. Though many times we cannot.

I cannot imagine my loss if my daughter and grand daughter were not nearby healthy and safe. Very few humans truly can.

I am moved though... that somehow that father sensed through this unimaginable loss, that humanity could, and should take this opportunity to come closer together. He asked all of his son's friends for that new opportunity. May that man stand strong forever, as an example for us all to achieve and follow!

I'm very sorry for your loss of a friend Freedomflyer. Thank you for sharing with us.
 

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It's 6:30am here in England,UK and this is the first thing I've read today, very odd but as I read through I almost felt I was there.
Life is extremely cruel unfortunately and always seems to take away the 'BEST' people on this planet rather than the 'worst' kind.
I wish your friends family all the very best FF.
 
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We lost our first born, Seth, 7 years ago. He was 17, and died in a car wreck.
I always thought that I'd never be able to survive such a loss, and the pain never does go away. But, time brings healing, understanding, and acceptance. It's a complex experience. As much as it hurt to lose my only son, it hurt worse, if it can be so, to watch my family grieve.
Our family, church family, and most importantly our faith in Jesus Christ, has made the difference. We could have been swallowed up and destroyed by the experience, or we could come out of it wiser, more sensitive, and more appreciative of life and time. Hopefully, this family (as well as all the others out there- we all know families that have gone through similar circumstances) has the grace, love, and support to make it through.

(I didn't post this to jump on the sympathy bandwagon. I did post because hopefully it helps in some way. I sure do hope that these things never do happen to any of you, but if it does, there is healing.)
 

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I couldn't even begin to imagine the pain and suffering that any parent experiences when placed in this situation. I worry quite often about my children and my wife in their daily routines. My heart goes out to all of you who have had to endure such a tragic event. Prayers to the family GOD Bless.
 
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